No Homo… Pause…

No homo-” BITCH SHUT UP ! I cannot begin to tell you how many times I’ve had to explain to mostly ADULT ass MEN and some ADULT as WOMEN that ain’t shit gay unless… YOU ARE GAY!!!

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Photo by Joshua Mcknight

Homosapien Isn’t Homosexual… Homo

This idea that clothing, activities or even emotions somehow make you gay is asinine. Because BTICH WTF?? It is also rooted in drumroll please.. “HOMOPHOBIA”. What Is homophobia you ask? Well pop a squat and I’ll fill you in.


The literal definition of homophobia is ‘irrational fear of, aversion to, or discrimination against homosexuality or gay people.’ IRRATIONAL being the keyword here. This idea that wearing a particular type of clothing or listening to a certain type of music makes you gay is irrational. I’ll take it a step further by including this: sexual activities or actions do not make you gay unless you predominantly prefer to them with the same sex. But even then, it gets muddy. For instance pegging or rimming does not equal homosexuality. If you are not sexually attracted to a person of the same sex as you then newsflash… you are not gay!

Like… Why Are You So Obsessed With Me

Now that we have gotten that out of the way, I think it’s a good time to address the fact that heterosexual people are obsessed with what other consenting individuals do in the bedroom far to often. When, in fact, it does not concern you. In addition to not minding their business; straight people try to boil whole relationships down to the sexual act when it’s so much more than that.

I remember when gay marriage was legalized and everyone decided to get on Facebook to write think pieces about “their feelings” regarding this topic. Nobody asked y’all to do that shit. Nobody gives a damn if your religious belief prohibits same sex relations. Bitch that doesn’t have anything to do with the homies. Your beliefs cannot dictate what another person does in their life. Religion doesn’t apply to everyone and it should never be the starting point when you are talking about human rights. Homophobia was rampant that day. Ya’ll should really be fucking ashamed of yourselves.

The Wade: Not Homo

Can we talk about how everyone attacked Dwayne Wade and Gabrielle Union for being great parents by loving their child and giving her a safe space to be herself? Til dis day… I hate Boosie for getting his dusty ass on Beyoncé’s internet and spewing hatred like that. Like you cannot give parenting advice when you paid a women to sexually assault your twelve year old son. The irrational fear of being viewed as gay along side of misogyny told Boosie Bad Azz there was nothing wrong with letting his son be assaulted because he was ready. But tells Zaya Wade she doesn’t know what she wants because she is far too young.

Don’t let homophobia allow you to make poor decisions in life because I promise sweetie, you’re probably not gay but if you are nobody cares. Live your life and surround yourself with better more supportive people. Periodt.

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